Connect in 2009

Number 5 on the Words of 2009 list is connect. This is an interesting word. Connect is vague. It doesn't have the rigidity of saying "make new friends, find new contacts, or get involved with someone." It is less ominous, more fluid, more spontaneous. It is an "in the moment" action. I like the word.

Everyday life, for most of us, is hectic. The "to do list" is always longer than the amount of time we have (or choose to have) to get it all done. During the work week, it seems every movement has a purpose and in many cases, a deadline. In those times, where we don't have a deadline or a mission, our minds are usually going over important details of our life. We go through our days focused on ourselves. The demands of our current world often keep us from making the incidental connections with those we meet and also, can keep us from making the more important connections with those closer to us. Connecting and continuing to connect is what builds relationships whether they are friendships, professional relationships or romantic relationships. Connecting is important.

How do we get out of the rut and reach out to other people?

1. Be in the moment - when you are out and around others, be there, listen and talk. Brevity is OK as long as there is sincerity.

2. Smile - Body language is HUGE. People see what your body communicates not what your words say. Smile, relax, and enjoy the moment.

3. Take it for what it is - whatever experience you are having, take it for what it is - a momentary diversion from life, a chance to make someone else feel good, a learning opportunity, time to share with a loved one, etc.

4. Just do it - make the time and make connecting a priority.

Anyone, any day can change our lives. Don't miss those opportunities.