What Works for Me

I caught up on Chris Brogan's blog this morning. One of his entries was "Do What Works for You". His focus was on the use of technology. There are so many applications out there, but not every one of them is right for every one of us. While I subscribe to that idea (just because you can, doesn't mean you should), his thoughts where a little more personal for me this morning.Do What Works for You and its companion phrase Let Others Do What Works for Them. I think as I have gotten older I understand the magnitude of this more than I did when I was younger. Even though when I was younger I had a tendency to want to show my independence by "non conforming", I don't think I understood how important it is to truly become comfortable making choices that support me. It took a long time (and many years of maturing) to begin to understand who I really am. With all the societal pressures of what someone "should" be doing, I still don't always make choices based on what works for me. It really does require conscious thought!But, what may have been even harder for me to grasp is to allow my friends to "Do What Works for Them" or to support my friends when they make choices that I don't think are correct. We have all done it - it's not just me!! Experience has helped me see past the world as it appears to me and I work harder now not to judge my friends or impose my thinking on them. I give my opinion when appropriate, but in the end I strive to let them "do what works for them." I don't always get this right and its easy to quickly revert to my old ways, but I do better than I did!So, today, do what works for you but also support your friends and allow them (or even encourage them) to do what works for them.I am off now to "do"!

Note: This is an entry I took from my mspace blog Summer 08